For Day 11 of the 30 work-day blogging challenge, I'm giving some love for newlyweds Emily and Brian who got married on May 12, 2018 in Columbia, North Carolina. The reason for the shoutout is because we just found out they are pregnant! My husband is very good friends with the groom, Brian, through fishing and Brian was even in our wedding as a greeter. This couple is very near and dear to our hearts so we are so excited to see their family grow! Look at those good looks... they are going to have some stunning offspring.
Their Scuppernong River wedding was absolutely exquisite to say the least. The guests enjoyed the beautiful view, a radiant sunset and the even more pretty couple right in their hometown. Thank you guys again for allowing me to be a part of such a special milestone. You deserve a two-fold congratulations on two big life events in 2018. Gimme me all the stories on parenthood because I need some tips!
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For those of you who are just now tuning in, I am doing a 30 work-day blogging challenge to force myself to share more about who I am, what I do and what everyday life is like so that you see I’m just as human as you are. Last Friday, I challenged myself to do three new things I’ve always wanted to do in our hometown:
It's actually ALOT harder than it looks if you don't want to keep your eyes open! My favorite might be the family photo with Belle and of course the fail pic of her and me together. She hates getting her ears wet so she was shaking her head and I was avoiding the splash.
So sometimes you plan on things but other new things end up happening. For example, on Friday, my husband found a house that was about to come on the market today and we became really interested in it. We thought we loved it so we had to spend the weekend with my aunt who’s in real estate, trying to prepare for the possibility of making an offer and even drafted a personal letter to the owners. After looking at it this morning however, we came to discover it was in a pretty bad flood zone and the backyard was saturated even after no recent rain. Our hearts sank but we knew we couldn’t justify having to pay extra insurance and the likelihood of giving Belle a bath every single day because the girl loves rolling in mud. It’s okay though, Jess and I kept telling each other, if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. God has a plan for us… we’re just really excited to settle in our first home. No sense forcing the home buying experience though. It was the first house we have had serious interest in since we’ve started looking a few months ago. You have to have your first right? We found ourselves learning about what to look for during a showing and we learned so much. We still have a lot to learn though in all reality. Does anyone know anything about buying a home for the first time in today’s market? What would you look for? We are taking all the advice we can get.
For tomorrow’s post, I’ll be blogging a wedding I photographed back in May. I just recently found out she’s pregnant, so I’m extra excited to go back through these photos and remember how life is just one precious fleeting moment after another and we need to savor every bit. I love watching my brides and grooms become parents because it means marriage is making them stronger together and helping their family grow.
All photos in this post provided by iphone 8.
Someone told me once: Go on at least one adventure a week. Doesn’t matter how far, doesn’t matter how crazy—just do something you haven’t done before. That’s what keeps you happy. That someone was my granddad of all people. He told me this was the secret to his and his wife’s 60+ year marriage. This makes complete sense for people like Jess and I because we aren’t static people, we love doing new things or at least doing same things with new people. We often talk about how we have to make at least one new friend a month because it gets so easy to become comfortable and cliquey.
Our weekly adventure happened yesterday evening — We went to the Ocean Grill and Tiki Bar with some friends we hadn’t seen in over a year that live in Carolina Beach along with a friend we hang out with often. We had all never hung out before so it was a double whammy of an adventure and it was the best of them. After a few mojitos, live music and fireworks, we meandered over to the Lazy Pirate for some bar food and more live music. Belly laughs and good cocktails made this adventure a Summer favorite. It’s also an adventure worth recommending to folks that visit Carolina Beach or surrounding areas. The atmosphere in both places made us feel like we were in a completely different world. The town and Tiki Hut itself has been featured on the cover of Our State magazine so it should come as no surprise that it is a coastal gem that garners a lot of positive experiences.
The Tiki Time adventure got me thinking… what if I challenged myself to do three things I’ve never done before over the weekend, right here in Wrightsville? Then I made a list of three things I’ve always wanted to do:
I spy with my little eye: A couple on the verge of making out. I Didn't even notice this when I took the photo! Still capturing love off-duty.
Staying in touch with my long-distance friends is one of worst habits.
I have amazing memories with even more amazing people but I neglect to keep asking questions about their lives and staying tuned in. For example, I have only talked to two people this week that were in our wedding... You'd think if I celebrated a huge milestone with them, I'd celebrate every day life with them too. Read more about my bad habits that I'm fully aware of in today's blog.
Bad habits sound negative to most people, but to me, bad habits just sound like a side effect of being human. Everyone has them, it's just a matter of whether or not they realize it. I took a poll from the general public asking if people would anonymously submit their bad habits to me and I was pleasantly surprised in the answers—some of them bring such a good laugh but some are really humbling to see how honest people are with me. Here's what habits you told me about:
-Drinking a bottle of wine every night (actually got this three times)!
-Picking my nose until it bleeds.
-Throwing recycled goods in the trash out of laziness.
-Only taking poops at work to avoid using TP at home.
-Always saying no when someone asks about hanging out.
-Not washing my face before bed.
-Biting my cuticles.
-Sitting. It's been 5 years since I last exercised.
-Binge-watching Netflix until 2am almost daily.
-Throwing my cig out on highway. Oh and smoking.
-Shameless self-tanner so I'm permanently orange.
-Farting and blaming it on other people.
-Going straight to the junk food aisle every time I'm at grocery store.
-Never keeping cash on me + using my bank cards.
-Rarely tipping Uber drivers.
-Feeding the dog scraps after dinner and now it's 15 pounds overweight.
-Smoke too much pot that I don't know how to chill without it.
-Can't be alone so I find a new friend to hang out with every night even if that means spending money each night.
-Eating ice cream every night before I go to bed (and sometimes not brushing my teeth so I can savor the taste).
-Not drinking enough water.
Self awareness can be a blessing and a curse when it comes to bad habits, but it could also lead to making a change if you don't like the bad habit. I've been around a lot of people that have been critical of themselves, saying they could do this better or that better but cut yourself a break. As long as you don't have habits that hurt other people, it's not the end of the world. If you do have a habit that negatively impacts those around you, then do something about it. Be the change.
Here are some of my bad habits. They may seem silly but they are things I do too much:
-Impulse purchases on Amazon. Last week I bought joint-pain management weed treats for Belle after seeing her having a hard time getting up and down off the floor. Too early to know if it is working yet but fingers crossed it takes the edge off of her arthritic pain.
-Not stretching with the group at the end of workout at Orange Theory classes because I'm too impatient.
-Putting WAY too much salt in everything I cook. It just makes everything taste so much better!
-Leaving my clean clothes on a drying rack for over a week.
-Not immediately cleaning my hair out of the shower. I shed way too much and I'm fully aware how gross that is.
-I don't make the bed every morning. In fact, the bed is unmade now.
-Not calling my family on a more regular basis. (I love you guys).
-Not reading the news (and informing myself) enough. Jess, my husband, told me about this national murder case about Mollie Tibbets yesterday and it was the first time I had heard about it even though it had been on the news for over a month.
-Not telling people how I really feel right away. I usually delay and let it build up.
-Being too cheap that I end up buying a poor quality products when it's important enough to splurge. Example: Buying Pantene conditioner that makes my hair falls out so I switch back to the expensive stuff.
-Not going to church when I'm actually home for once.
-Eating at Tower 7 every week and ordering guac and extra chips.
-Taking so many photos of Belle and never doing anything with them. Here's a framer:
Another bad habit is that I never offer to drive when I'm with my husband. Jess is definitely the driver in this relationship. I'm also really bad at distracting him. (We were parked for this photo though haha!)
Tomorrow's blog post will be about tonight's adventure to a place we have never been before, just 16 miles down the road. On the Cover page of Our State Magazine, they feature a restaurant called Ocean Grill and Tiki Bar in Carolina Beach in the NC by the Sea edition. This little gem is about to get a few more visitors.
Yesterday I batched wedding photos into two categories, keepers and deleters and then I found this gem that I had to send to the bride while she was still on her honeymoon. This is how I feel every day when I accomplish everything on my to-do list. She's my spirit animal!
After yesterday’s blog post I opened up the floor to what today’s blog post should be about. According to the survey, y'all seem interested in what my typical day is like. Y'all— I'm really not that interesting but this question was asked several times so I'm not going to deprive you of your wishes. Keep in mind, I never have the same day twice so this is a rough timeline:
6:30am | Wake up and hit snooze (once or twice admittedly).🤷
7:00am | Actually wake up, feed Belle, drink coffee, and watch the Today show for news and weather. 📺
7:45-8:15am | Answer e-mails from my photography and graphic design e-mail accounts (Yes, I have separate emails for both to better keep up with my separate clients and I have that many to go through that it takes all of 30 minutes). 💻
8:15-11am | Jam to loud music from Spotify and carefully edit + retouch photos from recent photo sessions or weddings. 🎧
11am-12pm | Graphic design work for small businesses I help on a regular basis. 💭
12pm-12:30pm | As marketing director for Rooster's Southern Kitchen, I'll screen for negative feedback to relay to management and respond to positive reviews on Google, TripAdvisor, Yelp + Facebook. 🐓
12:30pm-2pm | Eat lunch (usually dinner leftovers) and do one thing that helps promote my business, i.e. post an ad, print materials, work on blog, etc.🍴
2pm-5pm | More photo editing (I have to spread it out throughout the day so I don’t drive myself crazy because it can get tedious after several hours. For perspective, an 8-hour wedding takes about 16 hours of editing). 📷 Here's my favorite photo I've edited today so far. The color + vibrance reminds me to stop and smell the flowers, literally and metaphorically.
5pm-5:30pm | Work on blog content or schedule a post on social media for my clients and/or myself.
5:30pm | Orange Theory Fitness class or an evening photoshoot depending on day.🏃♀️
6:30pm | Grocery store run since store is next door to gym🥫
7-8pm | Shower + Cook dinner. Let's be real, Jess is the master chef and I'm the sous chef. Tonight we're having short ribs, sautéed squash zucchini and onion and mushroom risotto. 🚿
8pm-10pm | Eat and watch Parks and Rec with my husband (Don’t judge us. We like having something funny to watch at the end of the day and neither of us had ever seen it so we started the season together).😂
For today’s self-promotion project (that occurs every afternoon), I started on making some more soft-copy portfolio books to give to potential clients with small businesses in Wilmington. This is a culmination of both my photography + graphic design skills. My goal is to bring these books to small boutique clothing businesses looking to gather lifestyle or product content for their websites, blogs, social media posts, and social media advertising. Those of you that have a small business probably know how important it is to stay relevant to your fans online so by having a whole lineup of professional photos on standby takes almost all the work away for you in the social media realm. You just figure out what product(s) you want to promote that day and roll with it. I got about halfway done with this 20 page portfolio. MY goal is to have this sent to printers by labor day weekend. Crossing fingers.🤞 Down younger is a couple of teasers for you:
To sum it all up, I sit in this desk chair for about 8-10 hours a day and my goal is to get up more often to walk and stretch. We all know sedentary lifestyles aren't good for you so why do we continue to do it?
For tomorrow's blog post, I'm going to talk about all (okay most) of my bad habits so you know I am just as human as you are.
Okay, before you assume I’m some kind of nomad here’s a little context for the number I came up with: I chose to go to boarding school with a scholarship at age 15 (and loved every minute of it), so each time I moved at the beginning and end of each year in high school and every time I moved in college for new leases or summer sessions, and every time I moved after college totaled up to 27. So there was 12 years between all of that to make that kind of damage and it’s not even over yet.
In June of 2017, Jess and I were living in Charlotte before we decided to take the leap and move to Wilmington for his job. Not only have we fallen in love with the 28403 zip code, we have gotten our engagement photos here AND got married here. On top of all of that, we have decided to get pre-approved so we can buy our forever home after renting for over a year and a half. There’s no other place we’d rather be. Here are five things we love about where we live:
Tomorrow’s blog will be completely up to you. Submit the subject below and I’ll give you all I’ve got!
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